2020 – Finding the Good in Bad Times

I ended the year with a humorous graphic on my social media that said:

Dear 2021: I don’t want any trouble from you.  Just come in, sit in the corner, don’t touch anything, and keep your mouth shut.

Although it was pithy and pretty funny, there is an important flip side to this sentiment.  That flip side begs the question; “what did we personally learn from 2020?”  I think that question is important to consider.  Complaining about things that go horribly wrong is easy – finding the positive in difficult situations is not.  I believe that finding the gems in life is the best way to move forward successfully.

I learned a great deal from 2020 that has become valuable takeaways for me.  Here are seven takeaways that I got from 2020:

1. Micro dose the news!  I learned to get what I need to know from News Apps and to not obsess about problems by watching the news hour after hour.  Negative news sells and the media has become a master of sharing negative news (technically, it’s now opinions as much, or more, than actual news).

2. One valuable lesson I observed involved a man that told me that he was able to keep his job but that he had to work from home and he also needed to care for his children and keep them doing their schoolwork.  He told me he was stressed out about that double duty. During our conversation, he came to the realization that this was actually an opportunity to spend much more quality time with his young children.  And although this was challenging, it might be a time period where they look back with fondness because of the experiences they had together.  When he embraced this idea, his vision of the situation completely changed.  That was a lesson I hope many others with children experienced.

3. I witnessed “focus” beating out “fear” during 2020 for many entrepreneurs.  When people were frozen by fear, they had no hope.  But when that fear focused them, they had hope and they were much more likely to weather the storm.  Hope is more powerful than fear.  Hope is that little voice inside you whispering to you about what “can be” when everyone around you is screaming about “what can’t be.” Hope plus a plan, plus action, will lead you successfully through challenges.

4. I learned that during difficult times your network will be there for you. I saw people support each other emotionally and professionally.  I witnessed people give one another ideas that kept their business alive and thriving.  Two of the best examples included the furniture re-upholstery shop that became a Covid mask manufacturing company and a brewery that became a Covid hand sanitizer company.

5. I learned that if you wait until tough times are over, your business will be over.  During difficult times you need your network more than ever.  Social distancing is the wrong attitude – physical distancing is what was critical.  We needed to be more social than ever!  I saw successful businesses activate their network and not abandon it.

6. I learned that I could travel the world without getting on a plane.  I have 2.3 million miles on one airline alone!  It was a gift to be able to spend months with my wife at home.  It was the longest period of time we had together in our 31 years of marriage.  I will forever be thankful for that.

7. Lastly, I learned that friends are more important than ever.  The quality of the people in your life (or in your room as I call it in one of my books), will determine the quality of your life.  The quality of the people determine the quality of your life. 

For me, that last lesson was profound.  It was a tough year for me as it was for many people.  But I came out of 2020 with a clearer vision of who my friends are and who truly cares about me as a person.

I will forever be grateful for that.  So, I suggest that you not completely write off 2020 and erase the year from your memory banks.  Instead, consider what you learned from last year and what your positive takeaways are from that experience.  You will be a better person for it.

What are your takeaways from 2020?  What was something positive that you learned or took away from the most challenging year in recent history?  Give some thought to this question and write down your observations.  I believe that kind of reflection will help you recognize the good that took place during a tough year.

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Ivan Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is also the Founder & Chief Visionary Officer of BNI (www.bni.com), the world’s largest business networking organization.  His latest book, Infinite Giving, The 7 Principles of Givers Gain^® is a book about building a life and business where you don’t have to choose between winning or helping others.